Fire Life- "We are both right"

Tips for How to Improve your Relationships: 

Most couples argue about the same things over and over again. This is because we believe that if ‘I am right and if you have a different opinion, you must be wrong”. We argue and become frustrated because we try to get our partner to see our side, while our partner does the same thing.

So nothing changes. 

A major change occurs if we can start to think “We are both right” It means letting go of having to be the one who wins or is right.

So try this:

Have a conversation in which you listen to and acknowledge your partner’s point of view without giving your own.  Rather than point out how they are wrong, really try to understand their point of view fully without defending your own position. Try to empathize with how they feel even if it is not how you feel.

Practice this over time and you will see the trust, respect and connection increase.

Lori Rieckelman MCFRS Staff Therapist 

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